Well here we are again… Am I really ready for this???
Next week I will be entering the next year of my life and I will be celebrating my thirty-third Birthday. I remember as a child and even as a teenager looking at the adults in my life who were in their thirties and thinking they were SO old! And here I am in a blink of an eye and I realise that it is not so old after all.
I had a very blessed childhood growing up with my younger sister and brother within the loving and supportive arms of an incredible family. We never personally experienced or witnessed any abuse, neglect, hunger, deprivation or even divorce. We spent most of our childhood living on a farm in a time where technology was a touch pad home phone and call waiting was a fancy option. We would spend our days exploring and understanding the natural world around us, riding our bikes, swimming in the creeks and catching lobbies. Hiding down in the shrubbery of the creek and building fortresses and smoking rolled up cardboard and cinnamon sticks. Learning to drive at the age of ten and helping out on the farm (bribery was usually required), stealing passion fruit from the neighbors crop and dreaming of the day we would be old enough to live out our dreams in the adult world.
I remember from as young as five or six I was dreaming of a life of fame and riches and drove my parents crazy exploring the infinite possibilities. My reasons were very different to what they are these days. Back then I was in love with the fairy tale depicted on the television and movies of beautiful women living the high life of the 80’s wearing gaudy satin dresses with shoulder pads like footy players, big earrings, bad perms, blue eye shadow, drinking champagne and eating caviar on expensive yachts. As the years passed my desire for fame faded however my desire for money continued to grow as I understood its value more. I had all kinds of entrepreneurial ideas but somehow I came to the conclusion that I simply wasn’t destined to be rich or famous; because I wasn’t damaged enough. It seemed that anyone who had made it really big in the world had overcome some horrendous experiences in life like sexual abuse, poverty, depression, homelessness and drug addiction; none of which I had any to boast of.
Turned out I just needed to be patient. During the decade that was my twenties or the lost years as I sometimes call them I was blessed to experience, witness and overcome addiction in all its forms, mentally, emotionally and verbally abusive relationships, depression, bullying, eating disorders, low self-esteem, self-sabotaging behavior, loss, pain, sadness and loneliness to name just a few. I was constantly chasing the elusive concept of happiness and although I experienced a lot of joy and love during this time it never seemed sustainable. As soon as things started going well in my life I would always manage to find a way to self-sabotage and lose my happiness and would of course blame someone or something external to me for it. I had adopted the common belief that I would be happy when… I got a new job, lost weight, gained weight, had a new relationship, moved house, had more money, had a better car, had nicer friends or whatever it was I believed was the answer to alleviating whatever pain or emptiness I was experiencing at the time. I would feel happiness when these things happened however they were only ever fleeting.
It’s these very experiences which have driven my curiosity to explore and understand who we are, why we are here and ultimately how we can take control of our lives and live a life by design and not by default. The best part of my life has been dedicated to studying some of the greatest minds, leaders and change makers of modern history. I feel like I have lived many lives in these thirty-three years of mine. I have traveled far and wide, worked in multiple industries, roles and companies, met thousands of incredible people and learnt their stories. I have read hundreds of books and articles, watched and listened to hundreds of documentaries, movies, TED talks, audios and pod-casts and have attended countless seminars, events, training’s and programs all in the pursuit of knowledge and happiness.
What I have discovered about myself and the world around us in the process has truly transformed my entire belief system and vision for my future. I have come to accept and appreciate with every fiber of my being that every moment of my life to date, all of the highs, the lows and the in-between have perfectly prepared me for my ultimate purpose and potential in life. When I turned thirty I had a bit of a freak out and realised that time was no longer something I had in ample supply. I needed to make some big changes. Despite all of the knowledge and lessons I had acquired over the years I still had not properly integrated it into my own life and as the saying goes “If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got”.
I honestly feel that every situation, person and moment in my life has been designed to give me the knowledge, skills, confidence and ability to fulfill my life’s purpose of helping others to achieve their own personal potential. These past three years since entering my thirties have absolutely been the best years of my life. I have completely transformed the way I live my life. I have not experienced a single day no matter how challenging where I have not felt genuine happiness, appreciation and love for the life I have and the life I am creating each and every day.
I no longer feel ashamed for being so flawed, real and completely vulnerable. Like everyone I have my character faults, weaknesses and war wounds. I have come to love these less desirable pieces of myself as much as I love the pieces that are more appealing because they are all the pieces of me. I have some amazing talents, gifts and knowledge which I love nothing more than sharing with other people, helping others to achieve their personal potential is what I love doing most in life. I have however come to realise that I cannot be everything to everyone, I cannot be liked by everyone and I certainly do not wish to be. After all everyone is judging everyone else based on their own interpretation of truth? I still hurt; I still feel anger and fear. Positive simply cannot exist without negative however I have learnt how to acknowledge and let go of the negative emotions quickly and with love. To come from a place of love and not from fear is possibly the best teachings I have learnt thus far and has aided me in healing and accepting my life greatly.
When I made the conscious decision to truly start living my life for me and to let go of fear and other people’s opinions I had no idea just how much my world would completely transform. I had been studying people, philosophies, principles and the fundamental elements of life for years. I finally started to understand what was different about all of these incredible people who had stepped into their own power, overcome horrendous challenges, achieved some inconceivable feats and in the process changed the world as we know it. They truly understood what it took to achieve their personal potential, to believe in their dream and make it happen. It was not just what they did that made the difference it was how they thought about themselves and others that was the key.
Every day I am still learning, every day I am faced with another challenge, another doubt or another fear to overcome. And every day I am grateful for the opportunity to overcome these because it means I have another day here on earth to achieve my purpose. I now attract into my life the most incredible people, opportunities, relationships and experiences like I never thought possible. Best of all I feel fully equipped to handle anything life has to throw at me without the fear of ever going back to the dark places of the past. We are all worthy and capable of living extraordinary lives and I now have the tools and knowledge to ensure I continue to work towards that each and every day.
I am so ready for what this birthday means for me; it is the next exciting chapter of my life. For the last two years I have been refining my purpose, stepping into my own power and harnessing my personal potential to truly achieve my vision for my future. I have been working tirelessly these past few months on developing a program which would be accessible and affordable to everyone who was serious about making a positive change in their life. The best of everything I have learned, implemented and used personally from over a decade of personal study, observation and research about personal potential and happiness is in this program.
Happiness is most definitely an inside job, happiness is not an external entity; it resides within us and once you can harness this everything else you desire just falls into place. I have always loved working with people and helping them find their path in life. It is such an honour to finally be able to share my knowledge with even more people to become leaders in their own lives. I am super excited to be launching my brand new “Personal Leadership Program” starting next month.
Earlier in this blog I talked about riches and one of the greatest realisations I have had in my thirty-three years is that my riches are not what I have in the bank, but what I have left when you take what’s in the bank away. In this respect I get richer every day and one day that will hopefully also reflect in my actual bank account. However in the mean time I count my blessings daily and my love bank is brimming with them; I am wealthier than I could have ever dreamed of as a child.
“Anything easy won’t be worthwhile and anything worthwhile won’t be easy”
Until next time,